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Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Why You Should Attend Intensive Marriage Counseling Retreats

By Toni Vang


Many relationships in the current century tend to collapse even before five years are over. We want to look at the reasons for this and how attending intensive marriage counseling retreats can help you sought put the problems in the relationship. Counseling is important as it prepares couples for what they are to expect as they get into marriage.

Retreats are excellent bonding sessions that people learn so many things. Some of the valuable lessons people learn in these retreats include. The counselors will teach the couples on how to set goals higher than their partner. It is always important to set higher standards for yourself for the benefit of your partner. By working on yourself, you will make your other better half feel better, and it will impact positively on the union. In most cases focusing so much on your individual needs can be a challenge to the relationship and it can cause it to collapse.

When you want a happy and stable marriage, you need to put your expectations know earlier when the relationship begins. People who have a vision in most cases will not allow other things to distract them. It is for this reason that present circumstances cannot distract you the original goals.

Checking your progress as a couple is also important. There will always be people who will want to collapse your relationship; as soon as you notice them, you need to get rid of them. Going to the retreats will give you an environment to ask questions about marriage that will help you deal with such people.

When there are things that lead to anger, resentment and judgment arise it important to dig deeper to why these thought come and take some time to solve them amicably. Open your mind and be ready to face every situation boldly. The more you keep avoiding speaking about everything you build resentment within yourself and that is what leads to divorce after the situation cannot be handled anymore.

With these retreats, you can also speak about things that weigh you down in the relationship. Be ready to sort out your marital issues candidly in the presence of your partner. Do not be afraid to talk about some issues that you may deem as embarrassing because after all it about you, your children, your future, and your partner.

The retreats also give you an opportunity to fall in love once again. You can find that long lost passion and set other clear goals as you move on to life. However, the therapy is not a quick fix; it takes the time to address the challenges and does not need distractions like your job. The two of you have to dedicate time to it to get the best out of it. Only remember to use your time qualitatively and not quantitatively.

Finally, learn that people need a second chance to give their best in life. However, when couples give each other second chances, it is to the good of both of them. Partners should not take the advantage to exploit the other partner due to the second chance. Create an environment that breeds trust and love. Do not live under suspicion all the time instead make effort to make life better.




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